The importance of family..

Many spiritual seekers and materialists suffer a lot because they are too attached to their families. Hinduism teaches us to be independent mentally, and in doing so, we often get rid of our family. Is family really important? Well, not really- families are really not necessary for you to achieve your personal goals and also your material needs. Then what is the use of living with family- the only use appears to be the role of duty. You are duty bound when in a family- you have to look after your parents, your siblings, your relatives and also pursue your own goals simultaneously.

Many families are really burdensome on some individuals as there is no accountability. They are not responsible for any other family member, instead they just appear to be pileons, grabbing away at each others’ energy.

Many financially and emotionally independent people can live all alone as is normally done in Western society. But we Indians thrive only under our traditional joint families and thus, we never become independent mentally.

Becoming independent may make you ascetic, but most such independent people are also quite extreme in their depravity. Such people need to become social and gather together with other like-minded and free people diligently.

Being part of a large family may make you appear more social, but you may really be very lonely despite getting all their attention entirely.  

Another factor is the feelings of love and desire that one feels when attached to a family. Many independent people do not love other people irrationally and randomly. The love in an independent person should be channeled towards serving society- while most materialist people seem to land themselves into a lot of controversy, the independent person is able to live devoid of any scandal or controversy.

While living in a large family, its members should remember to be in firm control of their Freudian attachments, whereas an independent person is totally bereft of all such incestuous tendencies.

Living alone is a skill and only people with sound minds and personalities can pull off such a difficult task effectively. Independent people make their family members wholesome and independent too most efficiently.   

People who live alone are also skilled contributors to a fulfilled society. Also, many independent people are also moral and skilled emotionally. Living independently gives you the time to develop some special skills and abilities to make your life more perfect and rewarding.      

Many families make their old people suffer incessantly. They make them do their menial tasks and some of them are also made to babysit all their children and grand children most tragically.

Then there are also issues of property- most old people leave behind their assets and fortunes only for their offspring to fight each other over them rabidly. Therefore, to live life fully and wholesomely, we must learn to live it alone and effectively.